Hi Brandonk, welcome to the forums
It sounds to me that you have dived right into the full campaign and gotten a bit overwhelmed? If so, I recommend taking a step back and try the tutorials and a couple of the smaller scenarios before "going off the deep end"
brandonk wrote:I just bought the game, I am having massive problems trying to get my forces to attack anything,
For a stack to attack an enemy stack, it needs to be in the same region, and be in either offensive or assault posture. To attack a city or fort (and the forces within), it needs to be in assault posture. You can still get attacked if you're in defensive or passive posture, but then it will depend on the enemy being in offensive/assault posture
brandonk wrote:I also am having trouble with millions of generals and commanders and no forces for them to lead,
You do indeed receive a large number of them at times. I usually keep them dispersed between some "collection" points, so that whenever I have need for one (to command a stack or to become a divisional or brigade commander), I know where to look. In time, you'll get a feel for how many commanders you have and how that number matches up with the tasks you can set them to.
brandonk wrote:and when I buy forces they seem to come in randomly and everything is always scattered everywhere.
When you buy land units, you decide which state they should appear in, but you can't control where in that state they appear.
If you aren't familiar with them, I highly recommend the E/R-keys, which cycle through idle land units (= units that aren't sentried and that are without orders). This will bring the various new units to your attention as they become available for service, and you don't need to search through your cities to keep track of them.
(Naval units use T and Y for the same type of cycling)
brandonk wrote:I lost Washington DC as a Northern player in one Year, even though I never even moved any forces and couldn't seem to get troops to leave the cities to reinforce them, which is weird, because I could select some other forces and they move fine.
Some units are "fixed", i.e. they won't moved for a given number of turns, till they are attacked or perhaps even never at all. when you hover your mouse over each unit in a stack, the tooltip will tell you whether or not that unit is "fixed" in some way.
Hope this provides some help

In any case, keep those questions coming. It's a deep game which requires a small effort to get into, but once you start getting the hang of things, you'll uncover a gem of a game
