I play either side
Suggestions for house rules:
Mobilization:
only volunteers until late december 1861. the CSA can then mobilize. If they go full then the union can go partial at late june 62. late december 62 it is gloves off for everybody.
Raiding:
free with any unit in the border states of Missouri, Kentucky, West Virginia, Delaware and Maryland.
In other states all stacks must contain at least three elements and a leader with the raider trait
unless:
in a region that shows own flag
a stack that uses up 4 cp is within three regions
Settings:
slightly randomized generals (have some surprise

naval attrition on normal (or blockading is too easy for the North)
medium or great delay
historical attrition
I would appreciate not having to host.